Go to school, graduate and get a job. Or if you didn’t go to school, then learn a trade, or perfect your skill, and set up your own “occupation”.
Afterwards, get married and through the grace of God, have good children. Train them to the best of your ability.
Then when the children are all grown and have succeeded in their various fields, they too will have to get married, have kids and train them.
At the end, you are old, most likely in your 60s, 70s and 80s. Unable to do or eat most things. Now a passive member of the world. Soon you die, big burial and funeral ceremony is held. Many make money from it, others get the chance to eat free food and drink free beer, and they all go and soon, you become a memory.
Fast forward to 200 years later, and those you managed to stay in their memories have all died too. Your grave might even have been converted to a factory or an expressway. You’re totally forgotten.
That’s the Societal Standard of what the average life of human beings are.
That’s the standard people struggle to meet. People stay up at night to qualify and be counted for.
Isn’t it? This is why some women cry to bed at night because they couldn’t find husbands, and some men think themselves into depression because they’re getting old and couldn’t get married.
Then some couples move from place to place, taking insults from different pastors and native doctors because they couldn’t have children. They make life a living hell for themselves.
It’s not different from the reason people beat up themselves because they couldn’t find a dream job, or go to the best of schools or study the best of courses.
This is also why lots of people look at life and conclude that it’s meaningless.
However, a clearer view of life will make one realize that life is actually meaningful. It’s a journey filled with thrills, love, excitement and achievements.
Nearly every child has a lofty dream of one or more impossible things they want to accomplish.
Some want to go to the moon, some want to go to the Sun, some want to buy aeroplane for their parents and siblings, the list goes on and on.
However, once they enter adolescence, their dreams and visions will be invalidated and they will be forced to adopt the Societal Standard of misery, boredom , visionlessness and hopelessness.
If not, tell me how you moved from wanting to find cure for all sicknesses to moving from prayer ground to prayer ground looking for a husband or a child?
Tell me how you moved from wanting to go to the Sun to struggling for yahoo clients to scam?
Once Children and beginning to transform into adults, there seems to be a total agreement by older adults and the entire environment to force young people away from their dreams into the vicious cycle I described above.
So someone who was once chasing a purpose suddenly starts chasing to belong to some vicious cycle of meaninglessness.
They start by making it look like going to school is the only thing meaningful in life.
So they tell you to suspend everything including your happiness to ensure you go to school.
Then when you are through, then getting a job becomes the ultimate, lest you become a useless person.
After getting a job, the next thing is to get married. If you don’t, for a man, you are irresponsible. For a woman, your life has come to an end.
Then when you get married, if you don’t have children, as a man, you become a woman. As a woman, you become a man and then the object of public pity(from loved ones) or public ridicule (from those who don’t love you).
When you have children, then it’s about the school your children went to, the job they found, they person they married and the children they have.
Who made all these arrangements? Who set the rules. Who said this is what should be done and how?
Who said you can’t decide not to get married, or not to have children or not to go to school?
Who said you can’t face what’s important to you and achieve it?
Who?
Once you find yourself struggling to attain the things found in this vicious cycle, then you can know that you have left your dreams and now struggling to be one of the people who have lived and died that you do not remember.
Simply put, you are struggling to put your name in the list of the forgotten!
Keep it up!