Some years ago, a colleague at ESUT Radio, Swag Prince asked during a program how one knows if a woman has something to bring to the table or not. Whether it’s if the woman has money, or from a wealthy home, or has something doing, etc.
I answered him, though casually, that women’s financial status is very very deceptive. That a woman can be working where she earns 30k monthly as still appear rich, drive a car, use iPhone, wear expensive clothes and live in expensive apartment.
She can be selling perfumes and thrifts online and still appear rich, and she can be from a wealthy home but does not know the ABC of how 100 naira can be transformed into 120 naira, and then into 150 naira.
So, if a guy looks at her on the surface level, he would conclude that she has a lot to bring to the table. Most often than not, it’s all a facade. Once the person is married, lifestyle moves from 100 to 35 in 6 months.
So I answered Swagg Prince that it’s very simple. There’s a girl that once she visits you, for the number of hours or days she would stay in your house, all the work you were doing will be paused. Once she leaves, you resume from where you stopped. For these ones, you can’t mix business with pleasure.
Then, there’s a girl that once she comes, all the businesses you’ve paused will resume and even get a fresh light. It seems like whenever she comes is when you make headway or breakthrough.
For this one, business and pleasure are one and the same thing. Even if her ideas are not that great, her seemingly uninformed and maybe funny ideas, gives you clue to arrive at the real idea idea. For this one, there can be kisses and smooches in-between businesses.
It doesn’t really matter which of them is rich, has a well paying job, from a wealthy background or whatever. Rather, what’s your attitude towards growth when she’s around you. Does her presence make you pause your progress or accelerate it?
Though the answer I gave Swagg Prince that day was out of mere thought out analysis, I am beginning to understand the reality of that analysis.
Lots of people are of the opinion that men are scared of dating rich and classy women because they feel intimidated by them and I have always wondered where these rich and classy women are located, because every rich and classy woman I know, someone has confiscated her either through marriage or engagement. Those who engaged such women guard them like their lives depend on it.
And while some women are always wondering why their men do not open up to them, some men open up only to their wives or mistress.
It’s simple logic. There’s no way you can open up to someone whom you shutdown your work whenever she’s around. If you open to her, it means you have to use like one week to make her catch up what’s going on in your life.
You can’t tell her that what’s bothering you is that Chima is about to travel. She doesn’t even know Chima, his involvement in your business, What Chima means to you and your business, what would be affected if Chima leaves and how difficult it would be to replace Chima.
If you try to explain to her, it would take days for her to understand, she will probably get bored midway, and at the end, all she would say is, “IT’S WELL”.
So, when you calculate all these, you just heave a sigh and tell her to never mind. Then she would go about saying you don’t want to open up. Open up ka gịnị mee? Ka isi ya it is well or I am sure you will figure it out.
It all boils down to one thing; the intrinsic value of a woman.
When she opens her mouth, what comes out of it? Is it shawarma and pizza or suggestions, ideas and plans,(whether sensible or foolish doesn’t matter).
If she drives a car and lives in lekki standard apartment, can she start afresh and get to that level again on her own if it’s all taken away from her? Or is she the type that needs help to change her engine oil or her battery?